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Wednesday, November 7, 2018

To the Working Dads

“I didn’t expect to feel like this,” Matt has said in the evenings. 

When women are pregnant, they get asked about their jobs countless times. “So what are you going to do when the baby is born?” 

But you don't really hear about the dads. 

You don't really hear about the dads who work 40+ hours a week. 

You don't really hear about the dads who leave for work before their children wake up in the morning. 

You don't really hear about the dads who miss first smiles, first steps, first words. 

You don't really hear about the dads who get home in the evening just an hour before their children go to bed. 

You don't really hear about it because it's considered normal.

Matt loves his company, his projects, and his coworkers. Even so, he never expected to feel so down about his lack of time with our new daughter. Guys just don’t talk about it. 
He said to me one night, "I'm so glad you get to hang out with our girl all day. It really sucks to feel like you're missing out, and you would hate that so much. Trust me." 

On Tuesday he was able to work remotely, and he was SO happy! When Reese woke up around 7:00am and started making noise we could hear on the monitor, Matt jumped out of bed. "I'll go get her!" he yelled. She is the HAPPIEST baby in the mornings, and she gives the BIGGEST smiles to whoever gets her up out of the crib. He leaves for work early, so he doesn't get to be the morning hero very often.
So, to the working dads – your wives appreciate you, your children adore you, and it’s okay to feel sad sometimes

Matt combats this feeling by rocking the nighttime routine. He feeds Reese her bedtime bottle, they listen to music, he sings to her, and they snuggle in the glider after a long day at the office. He makes this a priority every evening, and wow, does it make me fall more in love with him each night watching them together. 





30 comments:

  1. So true, we do appreciate you working dad's! I couldn't tell you how blessed I am to stay home because of a working dad behind the scene, he works to provide while I stay at home to protect and keep things good. If it isn't for the working dads I'm sure I would be a lot harder.

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  2. This is SO true! I fear that a lot of people forget that the Dad's need to have a huge involvement in a kids life too. I love that you shared this post.

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  3. Truer words have never been spoken. No one bats an eye at the dads. I get it, moms have a rough go delivering the baby and taking care of the baby. Dads get very little paternity leave in the US and when we get home we take over so mom can rest. It's not a walk in the park. I once fell asleep at a traffic light I was so tired.

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  4. I love this! You are right many do not think about this part. My son has three at home, and does the same thing with the baby. He is very involved and always so exhausted! I sometimes think he would love being a househusband if he could! I know when my kids were growing up their dad got to see my daughter do her firsts, not me and it killed me. I really appreciate seeing a dad who loves his kids so much!

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  5. Such a true post. One of my best friends has a 20 week old daughter and is staying home with her during the day (he works at night) and loves being the primary caregiver. He is loving every minute of all of the "firsts" so far!

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  6. This is soo true, dads are often forgotten about when it comes to crediting the family. Growing up I never saw my dad in the morning because he went to work so early everyday.

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  7. This is so true. We often forget to give the dads credits. Behind our sleepless night and emotion changes, the dads is always there supporting and making sure we are fine. Dad do a lot when the baby is born they get tired as much as the mommy does.

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  8. Oh yeah, I do appreciate all that my husband does. He's in the military and works long hours. He's lost out on a lot of time with the kids because of it.

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  9. I love seeing the flip side of this. We always talk about moms, but rarely about dads. I know my husband works hard and he wants to be home more, but men just don't talk about it as much as we do.

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  10. I love that you're appreciating the hard-working Dads who aren't always as recognized as they should be. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront and raising awareness!

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  11. That's so true that we always focus much more on moms and dads are usually not mentioned so often when it comes to bringing up children. In fact they're an important part of their children's lives and they do a lot of work to provide them with everything needed. :)

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  12. I have a two year old daughter and both my husband and I work full time out of the house...but I can see how the dads can get missed from the appreciation here. Everyone plays an important role in raising kids, so it's important to appreciate all involved! It's a lot of hard work every day! You guys are doing a great job!

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  13. I never sat and thought about this from a dad’s perspective. I know how sad I felt going back to work as a working mom, but never thought about how my husband felt going back after just 1 week.

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  14. I can't imagine what it is like for Mums or Dads who work, I don't have kids but I am sure it is hard whichever side of the fence you sit on.

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  15. I am sure Matt misses his daughter throughout the day! My dad worked more than 40 hours a week as I was growing up. However, those pockets of time that I got to see him before and after his work are forever burned into my mind. They are some of my favorite memories. Just being able to see my Dad for those few minutes.

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  16. Yes, we appreciate the working dads! And I agree that it's okay to feel sad. I'm happy they get to have their special time together each night.

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  17. That's true! My husband actually starting working from home when our oldest was born so he worked twice as hard while I went to work.

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  18. This is so true! My husband tries to spend as much time as possible with my little one but he hardly gets praised. An appreciation for fathers is much needed.

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  19. What a sweet post! He sounds like quite the hardworking father who cherishes any moment he can get with his daughter!

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  20. WOW. This is so so true. No one actually talks about the Dads. Wow. I must share this with all my friends. Great article.

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  21. When my children were starting school, this became such a reality. They never got to see their dad. It was the deciding factor in the decision to homeschool.

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  22. It's so hard with all the busy schedules. It seems like the activities go later and later in the day, more so than they ever did before. It used to be families were home and children were in bed by eight o'clock. Now, school activities keep them out until much later. I miss the days of families being home in the evenings.

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  23. I can remember trying to talk to my dad through the radio. He was a DJ at a radio station and it seemed like we never got to see him. He told me later in life that he thought that the most important part of his job was to provide for his family.

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  24. this is such a thoughtful post. true that it is seen as normal for dad to not be around their kids as much but it is very important that dad spend time with their children

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  25. What a great article. And full of truth. Many times we forget to talk about dads :)

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  26. I remember feeling like that an awful lot when I was with my ex. I still feel it now but for different reasons. It's good to appreciate the dads who go through that rather than blame them for what they are unable to do because they work the 40 hour week. Trust me. We dad's appreciate you knowing how it feels.

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  27. Dads are definitely an important part of their children’s lives. Most of us parents make these sacrifices without expecting recognition.

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  28. Moms and dads are super hero without capes. They both have different responsibilities. But as a mom, I admire dads too for all their sacrifices!

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  29. This is true! Dads would love to hang out with kids too but they need to work hard to provide for the family. My sister is lucky that her husband works from home as well so they both are always present.

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  30. A father is an equal part of the child's life and I would agree with ALyzza that they are the super hero's for their children. Its important to recognize the fathers role and his sacrifices. He is also missing out on moments in order to provide for his family. I think the corporate world needs to recognize this as well and not just provide maternal leaves but also start giving fathers leaves as well.

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